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Originally Posted by Elixir  I go out of my way to do nice things for my friends, I always listen to their problems and give advice, sometimes I'll surprise people with nice things they didn't expect, and if they have a problem, I'll go out of my way to research on it for them and I spend a lot of time thinking about other people. However,my kindness is never reciprocated or even appreciated. |
I think this is a lot of the problem right here. The problem resides with your perspective.
Look at the way you worded that. You talk about all the nice things you do for people and how that kindness is never reciprocated.
My question for you is this....why do you expect something in return for your kindness? And my point in asking you that question is to make you consider whether you really are a nice person OR if you are just doing nice things to get nice things in return (or to make people like you)?
As long as act under the frame of doing nice things to get nice things in return, you are going to come up frustrated, angry, or empty.
and that is because you are giving too much of yourself and expecting too much in return. When you fill yourself with abundance of good feelings and kindness, it will overflow out of you and spill into the people you surround yourself with. And the act of giving then won't be to get something in return (you've already got so much that it's overflowing out of you), but, rather, because you've got an abundance of it to go around.