I know you, your just like me!!!!
I'm a people pleaser, I get really anxious and I have a weight issues. I am overweight and it causes me enormous distress and I blame everything on my weight given the chance.
Anyway I have made significant steps to improve my life and despite these challenges. I'm not perfect but i am soo much better than I was.
So how did I do it?
I have been practising meditation. Lying down or sitting up and breathing deeply, focusing on breathing and regulating my breath so that it is steady. Then calming down my heart rate.
I do not get into the weight issues with myself it just prolongs the problem. Thats really tricky but I just say it is difficult but I have to move forward. I just keep assuring myself that I'm ok and then focus on breathing deeply, I do it twice daily for about twenty minutes. It took time to build up to that though.
Its really tricky. Thats what helped me but it took a while, haven't found a quick fix yet... But try the meditation.