It sounds like you've made very good progress. And it sounds like your biggest concern is creating new and empowering beliefs and then manifesting them.
Honestly, I'd get specific about what you want your life to be like, top to bottom. Do you really want an independent life, or do you really want a man in your life that takes care of you.
I don't think you can seesaw on this one though. You either want a man who will take care of you, or you want a man that doesn't have to take care of you. If you want the personal freedom and power in life, then you should want to be with someone that holds that same belief.
Another thing I am in the process of doing is creating a vision board - that is taking pictures and creating what I want on a board in my office. This website was helpful in me seeing this:
10 Tips to Setting Powerful Intentions ? Abundance Tapestry
It comes down to choosing to create the vision of what you really want, making it real and tangible, and then going after it relentlessly.