Great replies from all of you. Thanks a lot.
Like I said, I'm not going to 'force' personal development on my girlfriendsoontobewife. We're in a great relationship as it is. However, I do see places where she can improve the quality of her life.
Example: she gets stressed easily. When something bad happens, she only sees the problem. Without labelling it 'personal development' I try to get her to focus on the solution(s) instead of the problem. It helps her when I help her do this, but in all the years she's never been able to adopt this mindset herself.
This is just one example. I wish to make her happy, which works, but only when I'm there to help in situations like this. Not that she's an unhappy person, but she'd be so much better of spending energy on other things.
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