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Originally Posted by Holden McNeil  It was a very dirty argument, but if I'd said that, she'd have some sort of answer for it ("you're the one being dirty in this argument Holden, not me." - wha?) Because in her head, she's right.
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(Edit: btw, if I were to tell her that, she'd have a million reasons to why I'm being stupid, and how I'm the one abandoning her, and treating her badly (ie: victim card), and it feels like it would never click that she's the one who's done the wrong thing.) That's where I was confused about acceptance. |
Agree with everything she says instead of resisting what she says. Oh yeah, this will change things. This is another form of acceptance.
"You know what?
I AM the one being dirty in this argument and I'm th only one here who is honest enough to admit that."
Sis: "You're being stupid again"
"Yes, I am being stupid. I like being stupid."
sis: "You always abandon me and treat me poorly"
"That's right, I do do that. (don't say another word)
The conversations will either get very short or go a level deeper in your process with her.