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Originally Posted by Holden McNeil  It was a very dirty argument, but if I'd said that, she'd have some sort of answer for it ("you're the one being dirty in this argument Holden, not me." - wha?) Because in her head, she's right. |
So you're not gonna try that?
Next time she starts playing the victim, tell her that every time she plays the victim card, you lose more respect for her. And then leave the room. Same with above, say its a dirty way to argue, and then leave the room. Don't give her a chance to respond.
She'll get mad, yes. She'll get very mad the first few times. Keep it up, though, and eventually she'll learn that you're not going to take this kind of stuff from her. Don't get mad yourself, just calmly say that and walk out. If you have to leave the house and go for a walk to get her to stop, do it. Heck a walk to a park'll prolly do you some good anyway. I like to take a walk every day when the weather gets better.
Generally, how do you or your parents react when she starts like this? Do you say nothing and just sit there, or does someone say something or attempt to discipline her?
By sitting there quietly (which is the impression I'm getting you did), you are silently approving her behaviour, like the first paragraph of this blog entry says:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...lent-approval/
People's behaviour is conditioned partly by yourself.
Feel free to correct me if I made a wrong assumption. Also, I'm sorry if this post sounds harsh, I was dealing with a spoiled brat yesterday, so I'm a little touchy about it.
As a final note, I just want to say to not worry too much. Yes, it's tough now, and you can make things a little bit easier for yourself. But she'll grow and eventually start accepting responsibility for her own life, rather than just feeling that life is something that's inflicted on her and complaining about it. And when she does, she will also accept control over her own life. She'll grow up eventually.
