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dcaldwell · 03-26-2007, 09:19 PM

I had a rather disturbing dream the other night, and I can't figure it out, so perhaps someone skilled in dream analysis and the like can help.

My wife has recently been suffering from some heart issues. We had our fifth child less than a year ago, and she's recently been having severe leg and chest pains, but because of her young age, the doctors seem not to be too concerned. All tests have come back normal. After she returned from another hospital ER last week and we went to bed, I immediately shifted into dream-mode, which is unusual.

In this dream, my wife died more or less next to me while I slept. The environment in which this all happened was our actual home. In one case, I woke up the next morning and she was cold, in another case, I was woken in the middle of the night and had to phone 911. At that point, the dream shifted to the emergency room, and then to the next day where I had to inform family members of what happened. One particular event that stuck out was my confusion of whether or not to phone her mother, to whom she is voluntarily estranged. Then the dream skips to dealing with grieving family members/friends and figuring out how to take care of the kids, and working, etc. The dream never went further than two days post-death. At that point, the dream would loop back to the beginning and start again under slightly different circumstances.

I should mention this was semi-lucid. I was conscious I was dreaming, but the events seemed somewhat pre-determined; I had limited control. In addition, I woke several times and attempted to dream "something else", but was entirely unable for several hours. Ultimately, I had to let the dream play itself out, then the rest of the night was peaceful.

My belief system is largely Eastern and I don't have much fear of death, including her's. I'm not exactly frightened, though I was certainly emotional at the time. My wife is just freaked out.

Could this mean anything significant, or is it just my subconscious trying to process the events of the time?

03-26-2007, 09:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
dcaldwell Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 50	Need Help with a Dream I had a rather disturbing dream the other night, and I can't figure it out, so perhaps someone skilled in dream analysis and the like can help. My wife has recently been suffering from some heart issues. We had our fifth child less than a year ago, and she's recently been having severe leg and chest pains, but because of her young age, the doctors seem not to be too concerned. All tests have come back normal. After she returned from another hospital ER last week and we went to bed, I immediately shifted into dream-mode, which is unusual. In this dream, my wife died more or less next to me while I slept. The environment in which this all happened was our actual home. In one case, I woke up the next morning and she was cold, in another case, I was woken in the middle of the night and had to phone 911. At that point, the dream shifted to the emergency room, and then to the next day where I had to inform family members of what happened. One particular event that stuck out was my confusion of whether or not to phone her mother, to whom she is voluntarily estranged. Then the dream skips to dealing with grieving family members/friends and figuring out how to take care of the kids, and working, etc. The dream never went further than two days post-death. At that point, the dream would loop back to the beginning and start again under slightly different circumstances. I should mention this was semi-lucid. I was conscious I was dreaming, but the events seemed somewhat pre-determined; I had limited control. In addition, I woke several times and attempted to dream "something else", but was entirely unable for several hours. Ultimately, I had to let the dream play itself out, then the rest of the night was peaceful. My belief system is largely Eastern and I don't have much fear of death, including her's. I'm not exactly frightened, though I was certainly emotional at the time. My wife is just freaked out. Could this mean anything significant, or is it just my subconscious trying to process the events of the time?