I think and belief that vibing is an exchange of energies and a means of raising both parties emotions.
The more varied the topics you discuss the wider your rapport, the more you talk about one topic the deeper it becomes. Small talk is like saving the pennies in a piggy back. It costs relatively little but it acts as a trust investment for when you start making larger deposits in your friends/people you're getting to know.
I have the intention to raise the value of everyone I meet, and leave them happier and more enriched than when I met them. Small talk, vibing, shooting the breeze is one way of doing it.
I think you don't like the time consuming aspect of it. Here I can see your point. If it's talking aimlessly outside of the gym just so you can avoid doing any real work inside or because you've nothing else going on, then yes, small talk doesn't really help you there. But used as a rapport builder, very powerful.
Colm
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