[theknightwhosaysni-NI]

It is a common misconception that male lightworkers are Mr Nice Guys. Maybe even Steve believes that cause in one of his recent posts, when describing a darkworker attitude, he wrote "no Mr Nice Guy".

I want to make it clear : Mr Nice Guys are not conscious lightworkers. Maybe they are trying to be, but then they are having serious lightworker syndrome.

Let me explain why :

First of all, let's make a definition. We are talking here about the Mr Nice Guys that DO NOT attract women. So it is a definition of nice guys related to women approach, as it is the topic of this thread.
These Nice guys, they try to seduce women by buying flowers, making compliments, inviting to diner and trying to please the girl they are talking to. They have been influenced by their Mom and by all the low level romantic movies that are bombarded on TV or Wherever.
They try so hard to be nice that in fact they are not themselves anymore. They don't say what they really think because they are afraid that the girl will not like them. Remember : "being modest in speaking truth is hypocrisy" (I think I read this in Steve's blog.)
So that is what they really are : hypocrites!!! Is that the definition of a light worker?
These nice guys that never have success with women, what do they want actually? Well, as men that don't see women often, they want to have sex, to GET love from the girl. This is why they buy things to please her. They think that they are not worth being liked by the girl so they buy presents hoping the girl will GIVE them sex in return (it is all unconsciuous or not completely couscious but it is true). Is that a lightworker attitude?

Now if these nice guys turned into jerks or what you may define as darkworkers, what would they do? they would be honest about what they want. They would not speak to the girl as if they would not want to have sex with her. They want to sex her, they show it, it works. Also they are not the girl's slave, they try to be "the prize", and it works.

Now my opinion of the lightworkers attitude towards girls to be successful would be :
Think that you are a giver. You give love to the girl. Therefore you don't need to buy her presents in order to seduce her, because you are not trying to buy anything from her.
You are honest with her. Therefore if you want to have sex, you don't try to hide it. (Don't say i want to sleep with you right away either allright, try genuinely to seduce her.)
You know that she probably likes to flirt and to be seduced. It is a natural game after all. So you try this to be an enjoyable ride for the both of you. You have fun, you create fun in her reality.
But in anycase, don't be an Average Frustrated Chump that is being a Mr Nice Guy, that is just lying and you won't be a lightworker with this attitude.

If you look carefully in the community of PUAs, you will see both attitude. Even, sometimes lightworkers attitude and darkworkers attitude will be the same seen from the outside. The only difference is in the motivation.

That is the end of this reply concerning Mr Nice Guys with the girls. However, we could extend that to
-Mr Nice Guys at ther job
-Mr Nice Guys with their friends
-etc.

You will see that those nice guys are just governed by the fear to be rejected. That is why they act so nice, always trying to please everyone. This attitude is of little help for others, and therefore they are poor lightworkers.