hmmm. Why do you care if he's gay? So what...it's really no different than if it were a female flirting with you. You still get to set boundaries. If you can focus on the behavior and not get too freaked out about his gender, it might help you. We're all just beings out there looking for love, you know? Don't hate the guy for having good taste, right? It's cool if being touchy feely with a dude isn't your thing, but working through your fear of the gay thing can free you up a lot.
I've worked through this one a lot myself. Even my Mom and daughter touching me was bothering me. I think the bottom line was still just boundaries though, not so much about the gender. I'm forty-five years old and just finally had the courage a few weeks ago to tell my mom to stop patting me on the behind. It's driven me crazy for decades. What a lot of wasted energy for me, but I just didn't know how to deal with it. Like I said in another post though, it's okay to just say "don't do that". Nobody really needs an explanation on why we don't like it...it's just our basic right.
Sounds like you're doing really well on this one Soccer7, keep it up, okay? Then you get to graduate from this frustrating lesson
blessings,
Pam