Yes, tgl - I do have an allergy to the expectation of smalltalk. If people would leave me in peace about it (but it is more the people inside my mind telling me "I should", instead of outside in society) there would be no problem.
It is not about being an anti-social moron or something. It is about how one uses time. If there is nothing but blahblah going on, I begin thinking of all the other things I could be doing at that moment.
I hate the fake feeling I get while trying to speak "smalltalk". It simply isn't the real me.
The greeting scandal was at school in my first year here in Switzerland. It was just made clear to me that in Switzerland people greet each other. This means saying hello and perhaps 3 cheek kisses or a handshake. This isn't a problem for me anymore, except when attending an event with 10 or more people. Upon arriving one greets, upon leaving one greets. Very time consuming.
The idea of energy exchange is, of course, correct. But as someone who is extremely sensitive to these energies and vibrations, I can tell you without a doubt there is such a thing as boring energy.
Perhaps engaging in smalltalk has to do with one's level of consciouness?
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