Originally Posted by butterflyeffect
I have been using the excess kilo's as a barrier to everything I am afraid of, I honestly believe that if I am overweight, no one will date me or find me attractive, I can't travel or move out of home or pursue a career path. This is all obvioulsy untrue but feels REAL on a deep level. But if I lose wieght I then might have to deal with all these fears so I don't lose enough weight!!
Despite really wanting to be slim and healthy.
Solution: I am going to face the fears that are holding me back despite feeling I am too fat to be allowed to them.
There is another approach.
You can tell yourself that even if you are slim and healthy, you don't have to pursue all those other things (travelling; moving out of home; pursuing a career); or alternatively you could pursue them at your pace, whatever pace feels comfortable to you. You
can decide how quickly you want to proceed, with any of your goals or aspirations. It's all up to you.