Hi Dive Bomb,
I think its great that you're discovering what it means to act congruently with your beliefs. That very personal journey requires courage. As you continue to "read and apply," you may think about noticing the kinds of people who write and the lessons learned they choose to share, am I right?
Whether or not you consciously realize it, your intuition (inner guidance) supposedly knows exactly what to think about where you are. Rather than ignore what action you would like to take, ask yourself if you're willing to admit your plans to yourself and to others. As you realize how you react or remain indifferent to people around you can teach you about yourself, you'll be less likely to try to change people and more likely to seek to better understand your negative energy.
If you wish to change others, consider why you think you need them to behave in a certain way and why you feel alienated because they're different than you. If you wish to change anything about yourself, consider no 'right' place to start may exist. That you choose to start would be meaningful.