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starlet · 03-26-2007, 08:37 AM

I am now a 24 year old woman, petite with auburn hair, hazel eyes and a total tomboy. I used to care so much about looks. The only thing I had going for me was that I was naturally thin. I did make-up, hairstyles, all the fashions, wonderbra, but it did not make me happy, I still saw that ugly girl in the mirror. I was sick of it, so one morning I looked in the mirror and said to myself "You are smokin' hot!" I giggled, and complemented myself again and again.

I started wearing clothes I liked - wild Hawaiian shirts and bright shoes, stopped wearing make-up and let my hair fly wild and free. I felt so much more confident, and I soon realized that I did find myself gorgeous, I was not just giving the mirror lip service, I actually believed. I found what made me happy was coloring way way WAY outside the lines, buying the box of 72 Crayola crayons and using every single one.

Do what makes you happy. If wearing Armani jeans makes you happy, then do it! But if you are wearing Armani jeans because what's her name favor of the week actress does, you are not making yourself happy. I find my joy shopping thrift stores, where I do own two pairs of Armani jeans that I got for dollars each, which bring be joy because I got them cheap, I helped a cherity while doing it, and no one knows they were thrift store so now I am making them all jealous with my designer jeans

"he says I'd be gorgeous (but says I look beautiful just the way I am) if I cared a bit more about how I looked." Hmm...this statement worries me. I don't know you or him or your relationship, but this seems to translate to "look how I want you to look and then you'll be gorgeous." No! Find the look that makes YOU look at yoruself and makes YOU think you are gorgeous. It may be a five year relationship but you are the one who has to live with you 24/7.

I live by the philosophy "You cannot please everyone, so just worry about pleasing yourself." By doing that I have made the most wonderful friends, have these stunning and intelligent guys fight over talking to me at bars while the ♥♥♥on, drop dead blondes in the miniskirts and low-cut blouses glare with jealousy and find every day of life a dream.

03-26-2007, 08:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
starlet Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 172	I am now a 24 year old woman, petite with auburn hair, hazel eyes and a total tomboy. I used to care so much about looks. The only thing I had going for me was that I was naturally thin. I did make-up, hairstyles, all the fashions, wonderbra, but it did not make me happy, I still saw that ugly girl in the mirror. I was sick of it, so one morning I looked in the mirror and said to myself "You are smokin' hot!" I giggled, and complemented myself again and again. I started wearing clothes I liked - wild Hawaiian shirts and bright shoes, stopped wearing make-up and let my hair fly wild and free. I felt so much more confident, and I soon realized that I did find myself gorgeous, I was not just giving the mirror lip service, I actually believed. I found what made me happy was coloring way way WAY outside the lines, buying the box of 72 Crayola crayons and using every single one. Do what makes you happy. If wearing Armani jeans makes you happy, then do it! But if you are wearing Armani jeans because what's her name favor of the week actress does, you are not making yourself happy. I find my joy shopping thrift stores, where I do own two pairs of Armani jeans that I got for dollars each, which bring be joy because I got them cheap, I helped a cherity while doing it, and no one knows they were thrift store so now I am making them all jealous with my designer jeans "he says I'd be gorgeous (but says I look beautiful just the way I am) if I cared a bit more about how I looked." Hmm...this statement worries me. I don't know you or him or your relationship, but this seems to translate to "look how I want you to look and then you'll be gorgeous." No! Find the look that makes YOU look at yoruself and makes YOU think you are gorgeous. It may be a five year relationship but you are the one who has to live with you 24/7. I live by the philosophy "You cannot please everyone, so just worry about pleasing yourself." By doing that I have made the most wonderful friends, have these stunning and intelligent guys fight over talking to me at bars while the ♥♥♥on, drop dead blondes in the miniskirts and low-cut blouses glare with jealousy and find every day of life a dream.