I agree with roxyruby, while I do understand Steve Pavlina's point of view. I'm currently debating whether I'm ENTJ or INTJ, but as an XNTJ I can definitely identify with his reaction. We're not good empathizers and we're not good with being sensitive to others' feelings naturally. And we really just want people to "just make sense", dammit. It usually takes a big emotional crisis of our own to start striving to do that sort of thing -- not that Steve hasn't been through crises, but perhaps not a type of crisis where he realized how hurtful he can come across, even when he's trying to be positive and take others' feelings in account ("I'm not trying to single out the OP, but I'm linking to her post on my immensely popular blog and criticizing her approach anyway"). Whatever.