but what about if you meet someone who you ARE physically attracted to, marry, have kids with, she lets go and then you're no longer physically attracted to her? would you leave her then?
millions of men have similar situations around the world (if not billions) where even if the woman looks pretty good, the men lose interest after a while - the marraige loses it's appeal, single life and new hot younger women look much more appealing. what do those guys do?
how are your communication channels with this girl? if she's as great as you say she is, my gut feel is that she'd be able to survive the hit of this little bit of info - and together you guys can move past it.
possible questions you might wanna consider:
does she need to lose weight / get more curvy?
does she need to put on makeup / dress sexier?
does she need to do something specific or behave in a specific way?
Also, you need to consider the possibilty that you need to readjust your view of her, but then attraction is rooted more in our animal instinct than logic - so i don't know the extent of which you can do that.
all i'm saying is - attraction is related to the external and superficial part. if you like this girl every other way, try and work it out with her. finding a girl you're attracted to / infatuated with is easy. finding a great girl to spend the rest of your life with isn't.
all the best.
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