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Hives · 03-25-2007, 09:29 AM

I'm 26 yrs old...my girlfriend is 29. we've been dating for almost two years now and have been living together for 3 months.
When we met, She approached me....I wasnt attracted to her at the time....Shes not un-attractive or anything like that, she can easily get a date, her personality is extremely outgouing and very positive. She is very intelligent, popular, kind, rational....I like her.

Well, I knew I wasn't physically attracted to her but we started to see each other alot. I found some things I did appreciate when it came to her looks, but recently I cant find anything.....I feel that I was originally with her because of her personalty which is a great thing....but something isn't right.

And now that we live together our dynamic has changed and even though she is still the same person, I find myself just not wanting to be with her.
Im also one of those hopeless people that dreams of being friends with her if we break up.....I know I'll see her.

I've never broken up with a girl before like this....She is so wonderful and it seems so shallow of me...but what am I supposed to do.....When we first started dating, I had to talk myself into it. I didnt want to miss out on a girl who is great just because of the way I viewed her looks.....plus I'll have to lie about why Im breaking up with her....well not neccessarily lie but I can't be totally forthcoming....but she will drag it out me....and it will hurt her feelings....

I have also found myself becomming infatuated with someone else which makes this suck even worse.....I love infatuation... to me that is the initial spark....something I never had with my girlfriend, just kind of a slow burn.
Plus the girl is one of my girlfriends good friends (of course!!!) So I cant do anything about this infatuation except let it go.....but this situation makes me think about how I want to be with someone that I am physically, emotionally, and metally stimulated by and right now I only have two out of three.

I just needed to get this out....I got hives the other night because I Got stressed out about this....I dont get stressed out.....and i sure as ************ dont get hives....

03-25-2007, 09:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
Hives Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1	No physical attraction to girlfriend I'm 26 yrs old...my girlfriend is 29. we've been dating for almost two years now and have been living together for 3 months. When we met, She approached me....I wasnt attracted to her at the time....Shes not un-attractive or anything like that, she can easily get a date, her personality is extremely outgouing and very positive. She is very intelligent, popular, kind, rational....I like her. Well, I knew I wasn't physically attracted to her but we started to see each other alot. I found some things I did appreciate when it came to her looks, but recently I cant find anything.....I feel that I was originally with her because of her personalty which is a great thing....but something isn't right. And now that we live together our dynamic has changed and even though she is still the same person, I find myself just not wanting to be with her. Im also one of those hopeless people that dreams of being friends with her if we break up.....I know I'll see her. I've never broken up with a girl before like this....She is so wonderful and it seems so shallow of me...but what am I supposed to do.....When we first started dating, I had to talk myself into it. I didnt want to miss out on a girl who is great just because of the way I viewed her looks.....plus I'll have to lie about why Im breaking up with her....well not neccessarily lie but I can't be totally forthcoming....but she will drag it out me....and it will hurt her feelings.... I have also found myself becomming infatuated with someone else which makes this suck even worse.....I love infatuation... to me that is the initial spark....something I never had with my girlfriend, just kind of a slow burn. Plus the girl is one of my girlfriends good friends (of course!!!) So I cant do anything about this infatuation except let it go.....but this situation makes me think about how I want to be with someone that I am physically, emotionally, and metally stimulated by and right now I only have two out of three. I just needed to get this out....I got hives the other night because I Got stressed out about this....I dont get stressed out.....and i sure as ************ dont get hives....