I think this could definitely be her being a normal teenager, but I have a lot of experience with this from an older person (my mother). For as long as I have known her she's played the victim card. For the last 7 years I have tried to just be optimistic with her and hope that it rubs off. It never did. In fact, sometimes it got so bad that if she did not like something we say she tells us that we've been brainwashed by our father to turn against her. She convinces herself that we are all talking about her behind her back, when in fact, no one does. About a week ago I was tired of being insulted if I didn't go along with what she said, I had to cut off ties with her. Not completely, she can still e-mail me if something comes up, but we are nolonger speaking. She refuses to give up being the victim and we are tired of being insulted and lied about. It's sad, but it's all we can do. We wish her well and hope she gets help (she may be bipolar, an older brother told me she diagnosed with it many years ago). Funnily enough, my mother had diagnosed everyone else in her family and life in general with a mental illness.
As for your situation with your sister, she is young and it could be angst, so be a good role model for hr. If it really does get you down, then cut back on the time you spend with her.
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