Instead of thinking of her as a problem to be solved you could try just accepting her as she is and learning to tolerate that.
When it comes to other people I think the ultimate choice is between acceptance and forcible change. She isn't going to change unless she wants to change, or unless you somehow force her. But I doubt you want to force her.
Which means the only options left are acceptance or avoidance. But avoidance is always temporary..
Which leaves acceptance :P
I know from first hand experience that that isn't easy but I'm fairly convinced that it's the right approach. You choose the effect people have on you, so choose to not let her behavior bother you, and choose to accept her as she is. Easier said than done, but the attempt is what counts.
|