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Originally Posted by Sam988  One of the best ways i've found to identify such low status people is just noticing wether the person smiles offen or doesnt smile much.
The 3 reasons i figured (ok i didnt figure it on my own; i read it somewhere  ) for one not smiling often are these:
1. The person is unhappy
2. The person is trying to appear "tuff" (this reason applies mostly for guys).
3. The person is shy/feeling uncomfortable
Either way, not smiling often means the person has some kind of issue going on/has low status. |
I can agree and disagree with this post at the same time. I definitely do not have a problem smiling at people who I feel are genuine. I have had my friendly nature backfire in my face though. For example, I can find humor in many things, so therefore I laugh a lot. I have had a couple of men say, "Do you laugh like this with anyone else?" Like they are trying to forge some sort of special connection. So I have to tell them that no, we don't have a special connection, I simply laugh a lot. There have been times when I have been at different places, and I smile at someone because we made eye contact, and I just wanted to. What happens? The guy tries to come hit on me a few minutes later. It's like whenever I be my friendly self, men mistake it as a sign of interest.
Yes, maybe this is something stupid to complain about, but it gets old when men suddenly view you as someone to hit on because you are friendly. Especially when you are not attracted to those particular men. I find that sometimes I cannot be too friendly with men unless I am interested in them, and I want them to hit on me. I just find it really annoying they will take something as simple as laughter and smiling as signs that I am interested in them.
So yeah, when I feel like a guy is interested in me, and I don't have those feelings in return, I make sure I don't smile or laugh too much, which really sucks sometimes because I feel like I am limiting my reactions to certain things. So I guess this is kind of like trying to make myself appear "tuff," or not smiling because I don't feel comfortable.
I have also found that people that smile too much can be hiding their insecurities behind their smiles. I knew a really happy guy who committed suicide. I knew another female who was very smiley but was bulimic. IMO, smiling can mean nothing. It is all about using your intuition, as well as getting to know the person to tell if he or she is truly genuine in their happiness. I find it very disturbing when I feel like a person is smiling to make him or herself appear a certain way.