Be honest with her. Say you are unsure about how you feel and are not sure you feel the say way about her.
I married a nice man when I was 21 because I didn't want to hurt him. It took me 15 yrs a mortgage and 3 children to tell him. He didn't know how to respond to love when I tried to love him. He was a good father but passionless in every area of his life. His parents had stayed together fighting and resenting each until they died. We didn't fight so for him it was a good marriage. He was happy to settle for that.
My parents are still passionate after 55 yrs together and the love they share is tangiable. They have different opinions and voice them, they openly debate them, then sometimes beg to differ but have never stopped loving each other and telling each other why. My mum has one leg and pacemaker. Dad still takes her hand & thanks her for bringing so much love & laughter into his life. She says she hates the pacemaker because she can't feel her heart leap when he looks at her across the room. Their love spawned a dynasty, 7 children and 21 grandchildren, that keeps on spreading and growing.
I was dying inside not feeling like that. Don't settle. If you're not sure keep looking.
Lallymac  |