Cassie, I didn't mean to say that I would actually tell her it felt like a lie when I said I love you back. What I meant to imply is that she would figure it out, and it would still hurt her. She's not going to think that there was a certain point that I switched from loving her completely to not loving her, just like that--she'll know that it was a gradual thing. And logically, one could surmise that I had begun second-guessing myself before I said anything, becase I wouldn't bring something like that up until I was sure it wasn't just a passing thing. The natural, logical conclusion that she would come to is that I had to have felt guilty or dishonest while saying it at some point before I brought it up. Maybe months before.
But you do have a point. Maybe I could just suggest a break without offering the whole reason first, and be honest (but gentle) if she asks further.
And alexyeo, if she were to be suddenly be gone, I think that sadly, I wouldn't be more saddened than if one of my friends had gone. It would just be a lost friend, and that's about it.
So that's one vote for talking to her about this as soon as possible.
Oh, and I forgot to mention this last post, but thank you guys a lot for the advice; I mean it.  |