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Originally Posted by cela  P.S. WWSD? (what would Splinter do? - had to put a TMNT reference in there for ya!  ) |
LOL. Oh, that's classic...
I actually did laugh out loud too, btw (who was the one talking bout that? Mark?)
Thank you all for the responses.
Looks like the advice is pushing toward one general direction: take care of myself, but be more loving, friendly, and simply "there" for her, without being pushy. Or the SR thing. I'd love to interpret this as something in SR, but I don't feel 100% with that whole way of thinking just yet (kinda mixed feelings now). But it's worth a shot, hehe.
SR: I'd be arguing with
myself, and whatever the root cause of it was, deep down, would be something within me that I mustn't completely okay with. That seems true, to an extent. The reason (I think) this all goes on is because she's got self-esteem issues, and uses excuses and blame to shift responsibility, to avoid any ego damage. I tend to think that she wants to play the victim card to give a good enough reason (to herself and other people) that, just in case she doesn't do as well as she'd like, then at least she's got something to put it on rather than saying "oh, *I* got it wrong (so *I* must suck)." Maybe I'm overanalysing there. But I'd have to admit I'm kinda the same, in the way that I'm overly afraid of screwing up (for what it would validate to myself). Although I don't go avoiding responsibility, I usually blame myself
too much. But maybe there's a reason I do that, too. (Thought we were talking about my sis here, lol).
That seems a little too simple though. I fix up my little issues, and her problems will go away? It can't be as simple as that Steve/Erin example where he just sorted out his tidiness issues, and Erin started becoming more tidy seemingly automatically. (Or is it?
)
Will keep you all updated!