I'd say make it your top most priority to put in an extra hour for yourself, make it the most important thing, because if you get burnt out then you're screwed and you'd take it out on your kids or something.
Be more efficient so that you can put in an extra hour for yourself so you can have fun with friends and get a real support network besides this forum.
But I'll relate to you to make you feel better.
I'd kinda had the same thing, I was a physics student just overwhelmed with the work. But I cant relate about divorce or kids.
What I had to learn was to put relaxing first and school work second. Seems kinda nuts. But I think that's what I had to do to not burn out, because if I would burn out then it would just make things worse and make things take even longer than they should. So I decided that no matter what I would always be done with the night at 9:00 pm so that I would at least have an hour or two at the end of the day that I could just sit and zone out and meditate, and plan out my day, or whatever, and just let my brain feel like it was recharging, and just to relax so that I could get a good night sleep without having 20 different worries running through my mind as I sleep. And if I did not get an assignment done, then I figured, oh well, I'd just better find ways to be even more efficient next time.
You might drop one of the volunteer activities? But that might feel like defeat, I dropped marching band because it took 15 hours a week, and I felt like I had been defeated, and I still found that next semester I was still busy. So seems like the amount of activities does not matter too much, just need to locate all the inefficiencies and eliminate them.
I dont know. Good luck. Sometimes its just hard. Maybe there's someone who has better ideas than this. Maybe just remember that the pain is temporary and that you'll have an awesome time when the course work is done, and that you're currently working for that reward.
But you can be more efficient so that you can have an extra hour for yourself. Put that extra hour in for yourself first and then fit in everything else around it... you are not being selfish enough.
Its like steve says here:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...d-your-career/
"Lightworker syndrome is what happens when a lightworker focuses on giving to the exclusion of all else, ultimately crippling his/her capacity to give. These are the people with really big hearts who give, give, give to the point of exhaustion. They haven’t yet learned the importance of balancing production with production capacity. Lightworkers must learn to balance their giving with receiving to the degree it increases their capacity to give. This is a more intelligent form of giving than burning out from giving too much. But instead of mixing polarities, the true intention is always on increasing one’s capacity to give. For an intelligent lightworker, even receiving becomes an expression of giving.
In truth a lightworker who fails to receive is using fear energy by mistake. The inability to take time for themselves is rooted in a fear of being perceived as selfish. So without knowing it, they’re actually calling upon fear energy, which slowly corrupts the flow of their love energy. Consequently, lightworker syndrome isn’t caused by excessive love. It’s caused by the hidden application of fear energy."