I have the same problem too. I have ended up judging people wrong.
What I do is I ask myself how much influence this person is gonna be to me in my life? Eg: If its someone I work on a project, then I know its gonna be only a work based realtionship and nothing beyond that. I then go by what movie star said - to assume that all people are good and have value.
I have also used subjective reality. So if I judge, then I am the only one who is thinking so and I would rather think healthy and good thoughts. Its more on the lines of Steve's podcast about overcoming fears.
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