[taylor2]

ok! this is embarrassing and i just need some idea of what to do. my kids have been my life. i have tried very hard to realize me and the kids and hubby are in this life together.i did not have a mom who was into any of us kids. we could not ask her anything.so i wanted to be different with my kids.i have done alot of sacrifce to be having a relationship with my grown kids.i have overlooked the fact that my teen daughter and her slimy friedns robbed and stole everything out of our home when she was a teen. i have overlooked her calling and demanding me and her dad go get her smokes cause she had no car...when we would not.she said "f"u and hung up.i ahve been on call cause she has been in domestic violence...for 8 yrs. now.the oldest boy is schizophric/and bi-polar. i can not even tell u all i have been thru with him.it is so horrid.but he and the girl that stole from us.they are ok now.the other boy is something else. he seems to think i am responsible for everything. i am the reason he has an eating disorder. it seems i called him "fat" once when he was kid.the story changes.the first story was i called him fat from the time he was 7 to 15.then it changed to once-when i was 5. i never would do that to a child. i told his dad and his dad said to me"u never did-i called him fatboy always".my hubby did cause he was always such a little stick boy.it was a joke.everything is my fault. he lied and said i locked him in a box and did not feed him and for days he had to go poo in the box.he chose a time where i would have no support or backing for truth.he chose when his dad went trucking.well-finally after yrs.the dad and my daughter broke him down to finally have him admit he was lying.then i was mad at him recently and i told him to leave.he would not and i tossed the cell phone at his knee...cause he was calling me a name. i said get out. i did not hurt him.it was more a release of madness...it gently his his knee.he told my daughter i threw it in his face.that is such a horrid lie.this is the troble i have always had with this kid...lying. how do i deal with this guy?he breaks the law continually and lies and lies and is always having some kind of really sensitive issue.it may be his persception and his experience but it never happened.he is a mess. he uses religion over people and then oges to bars and gets in brawls.his own life is such a mess. in every way.jail and divorce and on and on.every time he comes over. crap happens. when my girl was 11-he slapped her and she had to run to the neighbors for safety and he broke our door and her bike .we always give him money to help him.he owes us thousands.one time he left our house cause we would not sign for him a crotch rocket.he had no license and not insurance and no credit.what are we?/stupid.now the latest is he is telling all the family members we ahd porn laying around for yrs and yrs.another horrid lie.we just don't know what to do about this grown man who is 34 and such a stinker.when he comes over-he is in our face and always needs a place to stay.he gets into our private stuff.we help him cause he is a fisherman and going thru a divorce.and let him stay.now we have quit.we want peace.the last stuff we went thru was he jumped from 3 stories and hurt his feet(running from the cops).then before he was even healed-the cops appraoched him at a store thinking he was a robber and he was not-got scared and fled from the cops.he had schools closed on lock down and helecopters and cops after him.the whole town was on alert.he calls us late int he nite.he had craches his truck and torn down someones tree in there yard and he fled and hid in the woods in a hole.so he calls us late in the nite-to come and get him.he did not know where he was.he had gotten some old lady to open the door and let him use her phone.we went to find him.way out in the boonies-coming from the woods.then the next day-we see his truck and all of this onthe news. we turned him in and the swat team came to our house to get him.we are sooo tired. i am to the point of just not dealing with him anymore. i ahve given up all to have my kids love and friendship.all the other kids are receptive but this boy is just so hard to deal with.what would u do?/thank u for any response.