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soccer7 · 03-21-2007, 01:10 PM

I have heard this strategy used on many things, besides helping yourself to express your feelings freely, like to go after our dreams, to live life to the max and be to feel as happy and fullfilled as possible.

But i think this is not just a strategy, it's more a realisation to the fact that we are mortal being and can be killed any time anywhere in any situation.

So its only right that we should learn to overcome our social fears like humilation, nervousness, worries and etc, cause once you die you will realise that all those negative emotions were such a waste of your time, when you could have asked that special someone out, talk to your parents, sing that song on the talent quest, help others to grow, or what ever it is you dream of doing but were tied down by fear and worries.

Isn't it better to do first and maybe regrete later then procastinate and regrete for sure. But even as i write this, i know i'm going to forget this latter onwards, i will start to feel that i'm safe and going to live at least up to 70 or something, and i'll stop pushing myself so hard, its happens.

Other ways to better express your feeling is to practice, we are socially condition to feel fear when a particular situation arises, for example you are pushed onto a stage and pressured to entertain the audience while they fix some technical problem.

Our subconcious mind says, "hey according to what i've been taugh, from tv and examples from others, i think in this situation i MUST feel nervous and embarrassement, ok then i'm gona start sending out some chemicals that will make the body feel nervous."

So how to go about finding a way out of the fear, change your beliefs such that your subconcous does not associate the feeling of nervous and embarrassment with what ever situation your trying to remove fear from. I understand that this is easier said then done, but this is the solution, well at least the best and most effective one that i can think of, so what can we do? Practice.

hope this helps.

03-21-2007, 01:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
soccer7 Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Sydney Australia Posts: 64	practice I have heard this strategy used on many things, besides helping yourself to express your feelings freely, like to go after our dreams, to live life to the max and be to feel as happy and fullfilled as possible. But i think this is not just a strategy, it's more a realisation to the fact that we are mortal being and can be killed any time anywhere in any situation. So its only right that we should learn to overcome our social fears like humilation, nervousness, worries and etc, cause once you die you will realise that all those negative emotions were such a waste of your time, when you could have asked that special someone out, talk to your parents, sing that song on the talent quest, help others to grow, or what ever it is you dream of doing but were tied down by fear and worries. Isn't it better to do first and maybe regrete later then procastinate and regrete for sure. But even as i write this, i know i'm going to forget this latter onwards, i will start to feel that i'm safe and going to live at least up to 70 or something, and i'll stop pushing myself so hard, its happens. Other ways to better express your feeling is to practice, we are socially condition to feel fear when a particular situation arises, for example you are pushed onto a stage and pressured to entertain the audience while they fix some technical problem. Our subconcious mind says, "hey according to what i've been taugh, from tv and examples from others, i think in this situation i MUST feel nervous and embarrassement, ok then i'm gona start sending out some chemicals that will make the body feel nervous." So how to go about finding a way out of the fear, change your beliefs such that your subconcous does not associate the feeling of nervous and embarrassment with what ever situation your trying to remove fear from. I understand that this is easier said then done, but this is the solution, well at least the best and most effective one that i can think of, so what can we do? Practice. hope this helps.