[Plato]

Originally Posted by brendannz

It's that I give my power away, and also aren't open with myself about my passions. These are going by SPs latest posts "how you give your power away" and also "broadcast your desires"

What do you mean, you give away your power?

edit: -> incidentally, Steve Pavlina is somebody you give your power away to.

Do you mean you put people on a pedestal without acknowledging it (to yourself, or anyone)!

I don't know if I am emotionally dishonest but I'll think about that one

This isn't something to think about. It's something to feel. Not in a namby pamby "oooh I'm in touch with my feelings" way.

We're talking about "let me give you a piece of my mind" kind of stuff.

That little exercise will help you know what I'm talking about.

Don't hold back and be polite. You're writing it down. Nobody will ever know. Let it out. Everything. You need to know how you really feel behind the polite mask. Then you will have something to work with rather than fumbling around in the dark wondering why you feel the way you do and "give your power away."

I'm definitely factually honest though..

Factual honesty is overrated.

We get it drummed into us in schools, but it's a load of B.S. One can be factually honest and totally skirt around the real issues.

But it seems like serial killers, shoplifters etc. are probably very emotionally honest people, and possibly not factually honest people.

This is rhubarb. Emotional honesty means acknowledging your true feelings and letting them have their day in court. (Usually when that happens they soften and take on a mature form). It doesn't mean rampaging willy-nilly.

When you acknowledge a feeling you OWN it. You control your actions. Before you own your feelings they leak out in covert passive aggressive ways.

I'll do this exercise sometime (not right now, as I'm working). But honestly, I have nobody in my life that I dislike, so I'll have to use people from the past.

a) You're not working. You're browsing this forum. Do you see how you just lied to yourself and me?! You're not going to do the exercise, you just don't have the honesty to say "No, I don't want to." Be HONEST.

You DO NOT want to do the exercise! It seems ridiculous to you, AND you're pissed off at me for forcing myself on you.

b) You're lying!!!

Stop kidding yourself!
If nothing else I'm going to make you hate ME.
Is there nobody in your life who TRIGGERS you emotionally?
Who do you give your power away to? That's where to start.

I don't know if I am emotionally dishonest, but I've thought about the people who've pissed me off, and maybe they were pissed off

Are you pissed off or are they pissed off?

We're talking about people who piss you off.

because I just ignore them if they're acting that way, and nothing is more annoying than being ignored really, even if they deserve to be. Some of he more annoying people were that way because I didn't know how to deal with them, and just gave away my power.

I don't know what you're talking about.

Think it's really a matter of saying "what are my passions" and "am I living congruently with them?"..

These are just words.

I've been making good progress really, so plan on keeping making good progress..

But you're still giving your power away, as you put it?

Are you sure you haven't just got better at avoiding the real issue?

THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE. KNOW IT

More questions:
What are your darkest, deepest worries?
If you had absolute power (like psychic control) over people, what would you do?
What do you feel compelled to lie about?
What are you secretly ashamed of?