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Originally Posted by moviestar  I've had people like this in my life. The reason why he's hanging around you is because you are polite to him. He senses that you are weak.
Watch how other people treat him that he doesn't speak to and do the same.
The funny thing is after you start treating him honestly (like saying the truth what you think about him) he might start behaving normally and you might actually end up being real friends. |
That's an interesting idea to see how he is with other people...kind of takes one out of their own perspective a bit.
I'm a woman...so my take might be too girly for what you need, but apparently that won't keep me from adding my two cents anyway
I've found that if I avoid or lie or make any excuses...the challenge only grows worse. Like the Universe won't leave me alone about it until I get honest. So for me, the only thing that works is telling the person how I feel. Not what I think...because they will argue. If you tell somebody that their touching you makes you uncomfortable, they can't really argue right? Of course it would need to be in your language...maybe more like "don't touch me, I don't like it". If somebody grabbed the mouse away from me, I would probably strongly inform them that if I want help, I will ask. I think you can say that in a firm way and you have every right to. His behavior is intrusive and inappropriate...and yes...invasive.
Life is always testing our boundaries. If you don't set them early it gets more difficult as you go. You're allowed to choose who gets in your space, you know? And if you really do know that...you will stand up for yourself without having to get too ruffled about it.
It's taken me 45 years to have much in the way of boundaries...I understand feeling invaded very well.
Good luck!
Pam