[Heatsaber]

I've read some stuff on here... and one that rings with me is the whole.... Subjective Reality of relationships. I'm just kind of foggy on it, and wish I weren't, so here I go.

Say you have a friend that is frightened to live on their own, to the point of avoiding work, breaking down to cry about it and all of this.... would that, going by the above model, mean that conflict is happening because you are also afraid of living on your own? (I am pretty sure I might be) and if so, how would one deal with that?

Or, say, you have a relationship that is over. You're ex is avoiding you like the plague, or treating you like crap. But, you yourself are overly confused about what to do. If you should still like/want them verses finding someone else. That you want to be single but also in a relationship. That you don't know how to act around them so you try and avoid them. I mean, I'm doing this... but it seems she is acting almost accordingly. So, in order to change this, you would have to figure out what it is exactly you want, and then pin on that.... and stop avoiding them and all of this? Basically figure out what it is you really want with them, and all else will fall into place?


Thanks. The above two things are causing me lots of stress, and I haven't the faintest idea how to deal with them, until to day when I read about it.... just not sure if I got the right idea or not.