Originally Posted by drakemer
Loved the post!
My question: how do you respond to friends who believe that their desires simply aren't
on the menu? They choose to complain about the lack of an item (e.g. I want a job in this field, this income, etc. but I can't do it without this degree, and I don't want to be a student again, ergo I can't have what I want and it sucks, blah.) They neither order something that they do
believe is within their power to order, nor take action toward their desires in spite of their negative beliefs.
Maybe the answer is that I need to move to another table
Or tell them that we'll go out to dinner only when they're ready to order
If you dine with nudniks who don't know how to eat at a restaurant, what effect does that have on your enjoyment of your meal? If you don't like that kind of experience, no sense in repeating it. Better to dine with people who know how to order, especially those who will share bites with you, thereby giving you an even richer experience.