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Originally Posted by Trina  So, at the risk of sounding naive, when does changing beliefs become something you have to work at? |
When you are changing a core belief about reality or some habit/pattern you've had forever. Usually it's deep stuff that has a huge resistance to change.
I'm working at changing my beliefs about how I 'move' in my life. I have a belief system or framework in my head that says to move (do something, create something new, etc.) I have to (1) know what I'm doing (2) have expectations of the outcome (3) judge my experience with right and wrong.
Its very difficult to do new things in life if I first have to research every last stinkin detail about it, create a picture of how things should unfold in my head, and then judge myself as to how close the experience turns out as related to the picture in my head.
This doesn't work. I know it doesn't work, but I do it all the time and I avoid moving towards new experiences because I approach them with this framework.
I've also learned that the unconscious self is not gonna take this one for me... I have to do it consciously.
This is huge to the psyche. Consider the alternative framework:
(1) allow and move in the unknown (2) stay in the moment (no future or past or expectations) (3) no right or wrong to play with.
It's like taking away Christopher Columbus' compass and stars and say "go find America".
My mind hates it, and it fights it, and I have to consciously keep at it, refocussing in the now and just move from the present moment.