my friend,
Your story is not very much different from what ive ever encountered.
I was 20 and will be facing my A level exam in less than 2 weeks time before my 2 years steady girlfriend dumped me for reason i considered unknown.
Before i proceed consider these condition that happened to me:
1.My previous result is not good for me to be elligible to be granted a scholarship to further my study in the UK.I was struggling to excel in this final A level exam.
2.My exam is just around the corner.Less than 2 weeks time!! Time constraint adding my pressure.
3.My beloved 2 years girlfriend whom I loved very much and never doubt her love and loyalty to me finally call it quit. Being with other guy.
I expect her support during this emotionally stressed moment, but she was just being ignorant.
OK, if you were me.What would you do?
crying and wailing all day n nite?Write suicide letter?Cut yourself?
Please my friend, by doing all of the above will never bring her back to you.
BUT if you really want to take REVENGE on her, you can do that without killing or hurting anyone.
Ok this is what I did. OF course ,I was despondent and was in the lowest state of myself at that time.It is normal to cry for that reason (but i didnt coz i still retain my pride to myself).
1) I cut off contact with her.Delete her phone number.Burn all the fancy birthday/romantic cards and photos( lock away all these stuffs if u want).Delete her email.
2)I avoid myself being alone.Always in the company of my friends.Being in the study group.
3) Talk to my friends whom i trust. Dont expect them to solve your problem.But at least you told them what you feel and they will give you emotional support that will make you feel better.
4)Keep yourself BUSY.Involve in society.Go to gym.Play sports.
5) Always say to yourself or write in a diary that you are going to have a great day/you will be happy/you will be victorious...any positive words and project it in your mind.Think about how successful you are in 5/10 years time.
Whenever you gain eventho a little strength dont bother about anything and continue to work.
5) tHE Most important of all is to gain your SPIRITUAL STRENGTH.Instead of blaming God i took that opportunity to know Him better( I am a Muslim by the way).I always keep my night busy with meditation and prayers (after Ive finished my revision session) instead of binge drinking or clubbing or smoking pot.I read Holy book Al Quran and look at the translation. I really believe that for everything that happened there should be reason from God why He want that to happen to me. Dont expect Gabriel to come in the darkest of night and release you from suffercation by taking you to Heaven!
But personally all the positive words in Al quran lift me up and God give me the strength to overcome this in only a month!
THE RESULTS;
1) By not bothering about the break-up or at least pretend not to bother about it,I studied and worked hard to the last drip of my blood and guess what? I pass the exam with flying colours and be elligible to be granted the scholarship.
2) I got over the emotional stress.I forgive her. And I dont have problem to interact with her now( even if she is with her boyfriend!! I bet she is the one who is being uncomfortable when I am around).
3) You involve in society and you are improving your communication skill.You get to know new friends (even new girlfriend if you like).
4) You always know that your spiritual strength is as hard as steel now.You will welcome any obstacles in life with open arms and you know you are never alone .God is always with you.
6) you are succesfull in your life!!!
come on my friend, dont ever let this thing ruin your life.You only lose a girl.Some people around the world are losing their family, their home and country.
I always believe that you can get over this and be succesfull in your life.
The only thing to make that happen is you have to believe in yourself first.
your friend,
Herr Kaninchen