[Pegasus]

What is it within the human psyche that demands closure?

Every time you recall an unpleasant experience in your mind, you go through what really happened, what you wish had happened, and every imaginable way it could have happened. You are trapped not only by your past but also by your imagination (including how you envision the future). Do not contact your ex-girlfriend! That only makes things worse. You can only be healed by time, forgiveness, and love – of yourself.

You can’t be trusted to be alone with yourself right now. For the time being, spend time with friends so you won’t be alone with your dark thoughts. When you are interacting with other people in the present moment, it gives you less time to obsess about the past.

Here’s a trick to try if you find yourself suddenly beginning to get angry: first think of whatever specifically triggered that thought, then think of the thought immediately before that one, then think of the thought immediately before that thought. By the time you have gone backwards three or four steps, you should feel calm again.

Therapy is good because you have someone on your side who is objective and can help you sort things out.