Originally Posted by Angela
I think some people believe that acting brutally -- taking what you want, with a win/lose intention -- IS the key to being a leader. I'm thinking of some certain recent world politicians who have operated that way. Personally, I think operating with a win/win intention is more effective, but I recognize that not everyone agrees.
In any case, I'd recommend taking your next right action towards what you really want, rather than simply reacting away from what you don't want, because it tends to feel better.
I can see that my (repressed) desire to take by force is driven by insecurity. I expect to be walked over or ignored if I'm not forceful or simply ask for what I want. That was my experience as a polite, reserved, slightly overwhelmed teenager. This "fury"/anger has only come to the surface recently.
I'm not sure what to do with it actually, but thanks anyway Angela.