Originally Posted by Plato
There's this inner fury that I've kept bottled up, at least so far in my man life.
Although Steve didn't explicitly say so in his article, I think he was talking about heart's desires, rather than impulses or lashings out, when he uses the word "desire."
Broadcasting your impulses and lashings-out, clearly, is not for smart people, unless, as MidasGirl hinted, you're willing to endure the likely and dire consequences.
Finding the difference, of course, would mean looking at what higher purpose would be served by your achieving your impulse/lashing-out. And, naturally, you can tell it's probably an I/L-O by the feelings you have of trying to get away from
something, like fury or other strong negative emotion, rather than moving towards
something; or if you have the knowledge that fulfilling your desire means real harm (not just emotional hurt or irritation) to another person.
This one seems like it's worth examining for your heart's desire, pronto, Plato!