True Story:
In my early 20's, I dated a woman who was into PD. She ands I would read books with each other, we would talkk about ideas, and cetera. The perfect woman.
One day she told me she had grown "beyond" me.
shewhoisaddored (my kid's mom) is a wonderful woman, who, like all of us, is on her own path. You can't make someone "want" it, any more than you can make someone be hungry.
As an early mentor of mine once said, "The vast majority of people are
exactly where they want to be".
The sad thing is most of them don't know it.