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My question is about single men who watch a lot of porn / fantasize about sex with beautiful naked women a lot.
How would one parse the logic of the Law of Attraction to understand why these people rarely get laid?
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Since you used the word 'parse', I'm assuming you'll understand this if I put it in computer language?
The unconscious mind really is a lot like a computer. It does exactly what you tell it to do and takes things very literally. And when parsing language, there are certain things that do not compute, that it just doesn't understand. For one, it doesn't understand negatives, ie; the word NOT/NO or future tense.
So when you say to yourself "Do not screw up", all your unconscious mind understands is "Do ___ screw up".
It also doesn't understand the future tense. Phrases like 'I want' and 'I will have' are weak. This is why framing affirmations in the present tense is so important. If you say "I will have a gorgeous, sexy body", your unconscious little computer parser says "Will have... that means you don't have it yet, so I'll file this one in the someday/maybe box"
Fantisy means that you are putting it out in the future, in some other time and place. The physical sensations happen in the now, but the unconscious understands that the feelings are made up and being reserved for the future.
To attract sex, one must first stop focusing on the lack of sex. I'm not saying stop masterbating, but stop whining about 'not getting any' and focus on something productive (hey, most women find productive men very sexy).
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anyway, i tend to shut down around pretty women. i (simply) don't want to betray my desires. i don't want them to think i like them. they get enough of that as it is (and in my weaker moments this causes resentment).
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@zop
I just wanted to respond to this and give you a 'pretty woman's' point of view.
Shutting down around women is a bad idea. First of all, if you don't 'betray your desires', how do you expect them to be fulfilled?
Secondly, it's not such a terrible tragedy to have one more man with a pick-up line approach us. In fact, most of us see it as a compliment. Will you get blown off sometimes? Yes. Just think of that as practice.
The bottom line is, you have to ask for what you want. Women respect that, and the ones that are bothered by it are either annoyed because you've got bad timing or have low self esteem.
You want a confident, patient woman, right?