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Originally Posted by Michael Chui  If you know how to help, and you know how to do it right, such that there aren't any negative effects (assuming that's possible), shouldn't you help?
You would answer "yes", in this case? |
Of course. But aren't we talking about TheFlyingMan's question? How does he "help" his friend who is in an abusive relationship and his other friend who hates her job? It doesn't sound like they are looking for help from TFM, except they would like him to listen and empathize. This causes TFM pain, because he doesn't like to see his friends in pain. How does TFM help his friends loosen their hold on their pain? Again, I think by being present, setting an example by continuing his own growth (letting go of his own suffering in this matter might be a great start), and by making himself available to help when asked for help. (If the one pal is being battered, that might be an exception, but a professional should probably be called in for that one, rather than TFM trying to handle it on his own.)
Or were you talking about something else?