Ok, so you're saying the relationship is serious. What advice has your partner offered you? He has made up his mind to go. Did he discuss that with you or just decided that for himself and told you? I'm asking because I hope that he feels he should help you as well, considering you're his partner and still studying... If you can't miss him, can he miss you? I agree with redwillow's advice:
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Ask yourself what you would do if there were no boyfriend in the picture. Until you know for sure you two are committed seriously and are very sure about starting a life together, I don't think you should make decisions regarding school/career around him. When I was 19, I was madly in love with a guy, was pretty sure we would end up married, etc...and he broke up with me out of the blue for no real reason. So, you never know.
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That's true. You are 19 and sometimes when you meet someone special when you're young it seems all wow yeeha but use common sense as well. (Sorry to be the partypooper here, but that's my 2cents)
If you can, please do not work illegally, it can get you in the s**t inadvertedly and it's not worth it. What would be the benefit to stay in Germany and considering Bitsy's input as well: London is flippin dear to live. That's true. If you earn good money going there you will cope, if not you will have to more further away from it and have to commute. But you know this as you say:
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You have right that the rents are expensive and it might be hard to pay our monthly expenses, but at least we both could work officially without worrying about that 3 month work allowence if we stay in Germany.
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You study communications and media science, to me that sounds like you could find a really good job, obviously get some experience behind you and that. Great prospect. That's not the problem I think. especially when you put dtermination behind it and all that IM jazz.
When you study you will find there's always aspects you do not really like. I had that too and I'm sure others have. Focus on what you do like and try to accept what you're not so keen on. Crumbs, my partner studied for 5 years and he was sick of in his 2nd year! He's a design engineer and I can tell you it paid off for him, especially finding good jobs here in NZ, where there's a shortage of them. So putting up with some stuff can see you through later on. (Sounds boring but hey there you go
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Ofcourse Tim, I wish I could tell you that sure you can dash of with your partner and set up your romantic life together, but that's what you want to hear... it might not be wise. Just think very carefully that you have to consider the possibility that even if you do go to London with him, that you
have to be able to look after yourself, no matter what. So find out what rent rates are and where and what sort of jobs you could get when you study and what they would pay etc. I wish you all the best and am sorry I sound a bit cut and dry here, but it would be better if you thought about all this stuff before you are actually there.