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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  The basis of love polarization is that you learn to accept reality without resistance, including fear itself. A love polarized person has no need to be afraid of fear or to treat it like a dirty word. Love and fear are not enemies. |
Phew! Thanks for answering this. I can't count how many posts I asked it in. I thought you were avoiding the issue.
If you are love-polarized, fear cannot be in your realm of emotional experiences, as far as I understand, so I guess when you talk about fear, it has become a theoretical notion to you. However, "we others" - like me - I am not polarized and I want to change so I have a non-dualistic life and right now it feels detrimental to my progress to entertain the thought of polarity -
I cannot view the fear-polarization without...fear, because I am vulnerable to fear-based things done to me, and things not even far in the past, things that are so awful I feel sick when I think about them - this is even why I found this site.
I cannot tell myself it is ok to carry out the mental abuses and other things I see as evil (fear-based) that others have done to me or that I see they do to one another, because in so doing, I feel I let some wall down in myself and tell myself it is ok for me to do those bad things too, and it's not ok, it never will be, if I do them, or anyone else does them.
For that reason, I cannot see a fear-based polarity as not being evil. Until I am safe from them like you, I can't think otherwise, or I will become like they are and I would do to others the things I hate...then I guess I would hate myself...
I hope you understand me. It's premature for me to think about polarity, I'm not safe yet, I'm trying to get safe.