Gentlemen:
Your responses are, predictable. First and most obvious is Gene, I'll wager you're financially well off or that your wife is of foreign desent. Of course you're infatuated by her youth and beauty. She is enamored by her perception of your status. Without more information, it's difficult to tell, but such a significant age disparity is very telling. Although there may be some genuine affection you have for her and she may sincerely be in awe of all your billions. the dynamic isn't only clear, it is the quintessential definition of an old wealthy immature guy with a super young “arm charm” young girl/woman. Who in god’s name are you kidding? You say your wife is a strong woman - - - she may very well be, and she probably is smart too. Smart enough to marry an old rich guy so she won't have to work after you're dead and gone. What could you possibly have in common? Music? no. Mutual understanding and love of the American Transcendentalist movement? No. Shared generational overlapping histories that add wisdom, depth and mutual understanding and humor to the thought processes and emotions with each other? No. Colloquialisms and idiomatic expressions that evolve within a generation that add the existential texture and grit of that season in time? No. When a couple has more in common with each other, the likelihood of them staying together increases. The converse is also true and with the added chasm of 35 years the overlapping of commonality held together by your money. That's what keeps her with you. I'm certain there are other dynamics that influence your "union" but it is stunningly clear.
As for EyeIsOpen, I say, good for you. Older women not only are better in bed, they're much more savvy about their wants and needs and know how to go about getting them on their own. She likely has no expectation of you supporting her financially and if there are children, they're probably adults, or nearly so. Money and children are oft the problems that plague couples. It is not only a rare person who can integrate child rearing, but an even more unique couple who can maintain parenting perspective and priorities and still have time to deal with each other, ex's, work demands and STILL have time and energy to "work" on the complexities inherit in a large age disparity in a primary relationship.
While I'm at it here, I might add it is interesting that the responses since I last wrote are mostly from men. I know this to be a sexist comment to boot, but perhaps the reason for it is because you men are online blogging how good your relationships are with your significantly older or younger partner (the woman) because she's taking care of the real relationship maintenance issues - - - like cooking, cleaning, bill paying - - or even taking classes or visiting friends or an aging parent or grandparent. How about them apples?
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