Hi,
thanks for your interesting post!
My personal comment:
I believe that Steve wrote it clearly. Although he didn't use the term 'greyworker', he described greyworkers quite well. They offer love and expect to recieve love, which they can enjoy. When manifesting, they focus both on what they get and what they give. I think it's perfectly all right and the most of (conscious) people is in this state of mind. You can imagine those vectors and although I may not agree with the idea that the recieved content would be 0 in case of greyworkers and I may not agree with the definition of darkworkers as a fear, I think that if you focus on getting or giving only, the recieved content of yours may be greater.
But still, if you are convinced that not to polarize is the best for you or that polarizing isn't such a healthy/good thing, than it is the best for you and it would be nonsense to try to force yourself

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