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belugagirl · 03-13-2007, 05:20 AM

Yes, I believe it's cheating unless you have an agreement with your committed partner. Such an agreement must be VERBAL, not telepathic. If you're correct in saying that he already knows and doesn't have a problem with it, then it should be quite simple to make that "understanding" a spoken agreement, shouldn't it? If you're afraid to bring it up, you should ask yourself why that is.

About the feeling more social when you drink, this may sound silly, but it may help you practice achieving the same confidence without the alcohol: try _pretending_ to feel the effects of a buzz while drinking something non-alcoholic. Play the part. Once you see that you can feel more loosened up by pretending to, gradually you may learn to feel so by INtending to. Eventually, you may be able to put on your more confident social persona when desired with no alcohol required!

03-13-2007, 05:20 AM	#5 (permalink)
belugagirl Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 59	Yes Yes, I believe it's cheating unless you have an agreement with your committed partner. Such an agreement must be VERBAL, not telepathic. If you're correct in saying that he already knows and doesn't have a problem with it, then it should be quite simple to make that "understanding" a spoken agreement, shouldn't it? If you're afraid to bring it up, you should ask yourself why that is. About the feeling more social when you drink, this may sound silly, but it may help you practice achieving the same confidence without the alcohol: try _pretending_ to feel the effects of a buzz while drinking something non-alcoholic. Play the part. Once you see that you can feel more loosened up by pretending to, gradually you may learn to feel so by INtending to. Eventually, you may be able to put on your more confident social persona when desired with no alcohol required!