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Originally Posted by Michael Chui  If you know how to help, and you know how to do it right, such that there aren't any negative effects (assuming that's possible), shouldn't you help? |
I second ethereal on this subject & it seems Hawkins understood this phenomenon tremendously.
I had to learn to recontextualize the experience. It was probably for me one the big karmic lessons I came down to learn.
I realized that just because a person is suffering from their own self-destructive tendencies it is not "bad." The pain serves a higher purpose, one that me as a human being who is only able to see limitedly cannot see or understand. The pain is serving a higher purpose than I can see.
I realized that by alleviating their pain I was preventing them from learning their lessons & by alleviating their pain they shifted their addictive problems on to me. I became their addiction. I don't know if you've had personal experiences with this but it is incredibly damaging.
It was very painful for me to realize that ME...I... was causing further pain to those I cared dearly for by attempting to codependently "help" them. I truly helped them by letting go, calling on God, & having faith in them.
I re-connected with Love & through that I realized & recontextualized as Hawkins called it. I Loved them tremendously & realized simultaneously that I pitied them by not allowing them to discover the truth in their pain.
I realized that at times in my life when I was in enormous pain & it so happened I didn't have "help"... I learned. Actually my first temporary spiritual experience where I had a tremendous elevated peace/love/pain feeling was instigated directly by one of those experiences. I think back now & I realize that if someone had attempted to intervene... I would have never discovered what I did then. I would have never realized that there was something more than just this material world & lol, I wouldn't even be on this board sharing in the joy I share with the others who also see the world the way I do right now.
I am immensely grateful that those people around me weren't available that night to help me. I learned I could help myself.
It was very amazing.