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bellbird · 03-13-2007, 12:52 AM

Unfortunately people like that are part of life. It would be great if we could all play nice nice in the sand and borrow each others scoops and buckets

and build that sandcastle.

I have found it liberating to leave people like this out of my life. They have just fizzled out and away (emigrating helps too, GREAT cure

) These whiny ones are draining, tiring and actually incredibly boring! As we know what they're giong to mouth about anyway. It's like a cd being stuck in the player and spitting out the same tune and repeating itself

So.... the only stand you have with 'mouthers' is to let them be. I have a sister in law who's more in the I-know-better department but feels free to mouth about my parents anyway (what's the point right?). You know, once you know why that record is stuck on playing the same plippin thing you reaalllly can't be bothered anymore. First I thought it's pathetic some people are like this but actually when you look deeper it's very very sad..... They're insecure as anything. I know I know, it may not look it!, but I find it to be true. And once you know the drill, that's it, just leave them to it but don't play along. Oh, and try not to be haughty about it either. I still respect my sister in law, but just work on my Mona Lisa smile and think of a nice thing I'm looking forward to do after I have spoken to her

I do feel empathy for her but her behaviour doesn't touch me anymore. This decision to 'not go there' keeps me calm, sane and helps me to laugh at myself more too instead of her. Life is valuable, just get on with what you do value you know?

PS: Now that my sister in law has caught on on the 'new me' it's absolutely amazing to see her venom die out. She can sense she doesn't have a 'hold' on me anymore and I could have never imagined that things could change so much.

03-13-2007, 12:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
bellbird Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Posts: 194	decision Unfortunately people like that are part of life. It would be great if we could all play nice nice in the sand and borrow each others scoops and buckets and build that sandcastle. I have found it liberating to leave people like this out of my life. They have just fizzled out and away (emigrating helps too, GREAT cure ) These whiny ones are draining, tiring and actually incredibly boring! As we know what they're giong to mouth about anyway. It's like a cd being stuck in the player and spitting out the same tune and repeating itself So.... the only stand you have with 'mouthers' is to let them be. I have a sister in law who's more in the I-know-better department but feels free to mouth about my parents anyway (what's the point right?). You know, once you know why that record is stuck on playing the same plippin thing you reaalllly can't be bothered anymore. First I thought it's pathetic some people are like this but actually when you look deeper it's very very sad..... They're insecure as anything. I know I know, it may not look it!, but I find it to be true. And once you know the drill, that's it, just leave them to it but don't play along. Oh, and try not to be haughty about it either. I still respect my sister in law, but just work on my Mona Lisa smile and think of a nice thing I'm looking forward to do after I have spoken to her I do feel empathy for her but her behaviour doesn't touch me anymore. This decision to 'not go there' keeps me calm, sane and helps me to laugh at myself more too instead of her. Life is valuable, just get on with what you do value you know? PS: Now that my sister in law has caught on on the 'new me' it's absolutely amazing to see her venom die out. She can sense she doesn't have a 'hold' on me anymore and I could have never imagined that things could change so much. Last edited by bellbird; 03-13-2007 at 12:59 AM.