i like what you say about the clothes you wear telling an accurate story about yourself.
i am a physically large woman -- almost 6 feet tall, and more curvy than slim -- with a big personality to match. i recently realized that part of the reason i tend to dress a little "goofy" is that i dont want people to be intimidated by me. i want people to look at me and smile and maybe even giggle, and not be afraid to come over and say hi. so i wear a 60s pink polyester dress to work instead of the ubiquitous and dreaded pantsuit worn by many of my female coworkers.
but a 4'10" woman who finds herself being treated like a child by the people in her life might want to be a little more buttoned-up, so that others see her as a grown woman to be reckoned with.
i see these as examples of dressing to tell an accurate story about oneself. it's just as important, though, that the story be positive as well as accurate.
of course, so much of life is about learning to look at your own story in a positive and empowering way. if something happens in your life, why look at it from a disempowering point of view? likewise, if you have a big ass, why dress it in an ugly garment that says "i hate you, big ass"?
it's much easier to live with it, and even possibly love it, if you put it in a dress that celebrates it.  |