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Originally Posted by soccer7  Thanks bellbird, everyone of my friends i asked agreed on the same thing, that my mum shouldn't have put me in that position, although my aurntie told me my mum is right, that i am too weak, and i should have yelled at her for messing with my family.
i was told by my mum to go and release the airs in the lady's car tyre, i called up my friends, they said don't do it, i called up my aurntie and she told me to go scratch her car with my keys because it was the right thing to do. She had me convinced that it was the right thing to do and its my responsibility.
i did it, but my intuition told me it was wrong and i should own up if i am asked of it, my ego goes "no way, that suicide, there are alot to lose in this situation." My mind kepted switching between owning up or lying cleverly. But mostly i wanted to tell the truth.
today my dad came in and said, "James your 21 years old now, you know the difference between right and wrong, so you decide for yourself" in a calm relaxed manner and left.
arrh, so confusing, did what i do right or wrong, is it really my responsibility??
I think i have to go ask more people on this, perhaps my uncle, You see the problem is when i ask my uncle there is a slight chance he will take my dad's side because they are brothers, and if i ask my aurntie they protect the woman, so it abit bias. so thats why i need outside opions to lessen the chance of bias. |
What your mother and aunt told you to do was wrong. Clearly you should have followed your intuition.
Yes, you are responsible for what you did because you are the one who chose to do it. No one compelled you to do anything. Ask yourself if you would do this to a stranger. Have you even really gotten to know her? Has she done anything wrong to you personally?
I think you should really ponder over what your father said. The tension lies between your mother and father, not between you and this woman. And if you really dislike her presence, tell your father in a civilized and respectful way.
I also think you know what you did was wrong but are confused about this whole situation because of outside influences. Honestly, I think this situation is pretty clear cut: someone told you to do something harmful to another person and you did it. Not to pull a guilt trip on you, but you can't fix a keyed car with just a couple of bucks. In some cases a good amount of money is required to fix a car depending on how badly it was damaged. Did you think about maybe this woman really needed money for something important but will now need it for fixing her car if she chooses to? Aside from that, who wants their property damaged?