[soccer7]

I realise that being honest given in my examples ealier can creep people out, and perhaps make them feel uncomfortable, thats why even till now i still can't do such a thing. Whats holding me back is fear. I fear being labled as the towns weirdo like Antiventurecapital mentioned.

I don't see how being straight forward is selfish however, isn't letting other people know in the nicest way possible how you feel about them is something you are doing for them, at the cost of being labled a wierdo by everyone ?
However being labled a wierdo isn't something i'm willing to risk at the moment.

By DarkSociologist : Simply telling someone something that you think is "honest" is not enough. You need to take the time and learn how to do it in such a way that the individual ends up agreeing with you.

I don't have the intention of making them agree with me, i just want to let people know how i feel about them. with the date example if she say no, then its fine, i'll find ways to impress her without being too wierd.

By DarkSociologist : Don't be lazy by taking the easy way out by being "honest." There are a lot of emotions, motives, and perspectives involved in human interactions and they too must be considered before you decide to act.

this is what i mean by going around in circles with everything. I thought that being honest was the hard way out, hehehe, since its so hard to do and all.

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Originally Posted by soccer7 View Post
If they for example ask about their figure, i would probably say
"please don't take this personally, but i think your abit overweight"
there are nice ways of being honest.

That's not one of the nice ways of being honest, soccer7.

Yeah, I didn't think that was such a good example either. an alternative is to tell white lies, as i mentioned before i would lie if its for the benifit of other people.

So all in all this to me is a good way to be better person theorically, but practically i'm not too sure how my reputation will hold.

hmmm, heres one, imagine what would it be like if you knew what the person you like thinks about you, imagine if he/she walks up to you to when your alone and tells you. Wheather he/she like you or not, wouldn't knowing be good, if she doesn't like you at least you can try to improve yourself somehow and try to impress her.

By Dally : i think its not that bad of a idea to tell someone hey i like you. i dont know how far you will get with that kind of approach, its not what you say ,its how you say things.

I guese it can be creepy depending on the way they say it. I don't know, maybe i'm just crazy, my life has been quite hectic since i tried to gather courage for this, i haven't done it yet, but man, does it require so much courage. thanks everyone for your inputs, i'm go gona relax abit.