From what you described as "being honest" is really just being selfish. If you walk up to someone and you say "hey, I like you. Do you want to go out?" then you are probably going to creep that person out and make them feel uncomfortable.
You sought to fulfill your desires, rather than even consider the desires of the other person. Simply telling someone something that you think is "honest" is not enough. You need to take the time and learn how to do it in such a way that the individual ends up agreeing with you.
For example, lets say that you are asking a person out. It is one thing to randomly walk up to a person and say "I like you. Will you go out with me?" It is a completely different thing to first get that person interested in you and make that person want to go out with you.
Don't be lazy by taking the easy way out by being "honest." There are a lot of emotions, motives, and perspectives involved in human interactions and they too must be considered before you decide to act.
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